A very respected reader asked me the following question over on Tumblr:
How would you describe your experiences with enmity?
My relationship with spite, anger, and a feeling of being wronged is very straightforward. I rarely take things personally. (I suppose because my actions themselves tend to be impersonal?) However, when I do feel wronged and the perception reaches a point where I do take it personally, things tend to escalate quickly, though the magnitude of my “revenge” is usually within the realms of reason. For instance, I can differentiate between the impersonal slight (such as an acquaintance forgetting to bring me an item that I require at a time we agreed upon) with the very personal offense (a former friend neglecting to invite me to his wedding solely because I am transgender). Sometimes the distinction becomes fuzzy (as with the missiles launched by both sides when I turned in my resignation with a former employer) and it becomes harder to articulate the line between “playing along” and full-scale retribution.