I keep reading posts on social media where neurotypicals are trying to dismiss ASPD symptoms as unnecessary for someone to be antisocial. “Before you stigmatize those with ASPD, remember that there are those out there that are behaving prosocially and are just trying to make it through each day,” is a common refrain. This is misguided. For one to have ASPD, there must be a level of disorder present. Kicking a cat once is not grounds for the disorder. Stealing or getting in a fight back in the day also does not merit a diagnosis of ASPD. Simply put, the behaviors of the candidate must be so severe as to cause consistent and measurable distress for either the person with ASPD or those around her. That is, the antisocial must be in distress (whether or not they consider it distress) marked by unstable interpersonal relationships, inconsistent employment, legal trouble, financial destitution, etc. Or, those around the antisocial must have their quality of life diminished by the actions of the antisocial. At the time of diagnosis, there is no such thing as an antisocial that is mostly prosocial as that would not be considered disordered. Stop making the disorder out to be something that it is not. Dilution solves nothing.
A puzzling trend on social media involves the mentally ill masses trying to claim that there are limited, if any differences, between themselves and those that do not suffer from mental illness. A lot of it seems to stem from some seeking to define the words ‘neurotypical’ and ‘neurodivergent’ in ways that I’m not sure are backed by either the common usages of those words or the scientific definitions – if they are even well defined in the literature. Regardless of the etiology of this “debate,” the subtext is clear: by seeking to claim the neurotypical condition as their own, the mentally ill – regardless of the root of their own illness – want to be treated and seen as no different than those that do not suffer from any disorder, organic or environmental. Frame this with any other demographic split and the laughable nature of these people become clear. What if homosexuals started a push to redefine heterosexuality as sex between any two people? What if the paraplegics claimed they could walk? It is one thing to seek equal treatment, it is another to whitewash differences that are inherent and fundamental.
Let me put pennies on your eyes to pay the toll to Charon. Let me show you where you were right and where you were wrong. Let the requiem play out its one note song. Let me take you across the river Styx.
So let’s say that you are tired of wearing your mask. You are some fashion of Cluster B in nature (Antisocial Personality Disorder, Narcissistic Personality Disorder, etc.). You are tired of the contortions you must go through on a daily basis to be welcomed in society. You realize that there are facets of your disorder that affect you negatively – though not fatally and possibly not even as a major inconvenience – but yet you are tired of all of the recommended tropes required to appear normal. You realize that others may look at you in the way one would look at a crazed person if you were simply to act out without explanation. How do you set up the conversation with those around you? How do you let them know of those things that make you, you?
I don’t believe in an accommodationist approach to psychopathy or ASPD. That is, I don’t believe that psychopaths should be respected simply because we exist or due to multiculturalist beliefs. The analogy would be for the wolf to ask the shepherd for permission to exist simply because it is an animal, much like a sheep. It seems ridiculous. The wolf does not need permission to exist; it exists because it can exert its will in a fashion that makes it both feared and respected.