I know that I recently said that I was done with administering forums, and that they offered little objective value once they became full-fledged echo chambers. Well, I changed my mind again. I’ve listed the reasons why “recovery” sites with their discussion boards tend to be shitholes, but I think that the jury may still be out on whether analogous sites for those being accused of inflicted damage are without merit. Thinking specifically of Lovefraud and PsychopathFree, whose websites I will not link to in this post, I can imagine the frustration of those that are constantly being thrown under the bus, rightly or wrongly. There needs to be an outlet for the forsaken, though the effectiveness of that outlet can only be determined by those that participate. With this in mind, I have decided to spin up a new site, separate from this blog, dedicated to this need. In the spirit of throwing sand in the eyes of my enemies, I have named it Psychopath Tree.
A Borderline resorts to emotional manipulation. The narcissist steals the light from his acquaintances. The antisocial deliberately harms. At what point do you pack your bags and leave? The victims of Cluster B disorders have the ultimate say in any interpersonal relationship they share with the damned. The Borderline pushes and pulls and puts up a disguise that everything will be different “this time.” The narcissist plays so long as his ego as fed. The antisocial is looking for an outlet for sadism. The intentions of each Cluster B disorder I mention are inherently clear. It is not their fault when someone else puts their hand on the stove, knowing full and well that only pain will come when interacting with these hell-bringers. Maybe instead of faulting the individual with BPD, NPD, or ASPD, we should fault those foolish enough to take a lethal dose of bad behavior.
A puzzling trend on social media involves the mentally ill masses trying to claim that there are limited, if any differences, between themselves and those that do not suffer from mental illness. A lot of it seems to stem from some seeking to define the words ‘neurotypical’ and ‘neurodivergent’ in ways that I’m not sure are backed by either the common usages of those words or the scientific definitions – if they are even well defined in the literature. Regardless of the etiology of this “debate,” the subtext is clear: by seeking to claim the neurotypical condition as their own, the mentally ill – regardless of the root of their own illness – want to be treated and seen as no different than those that do not suffer from any disorder, organic or environmental. Frame this with any other demographic split and the laughable nature of these people become clear. What if homosexuals started a push to redefine heterosexuality as sex between any two people? What if the paraplegics claimed they could walk? It is one thing to seek equal treatment, it is another to whitewash differences that are inherent and fundamental.
So let’s say that you are tired of wearing your mask. You are some fashion of Cluster B in nature (Antisocial Personality Disorder, Narcissistic Personality Disorder, etc.). You are tired of the contortions you must go through on a daily basis to be welcomed in society. You realize that there are facets of your disorder that affect you negatively – though not fatally and possibly not even as a major inconvenience – but yet you are tired of all of the recommended tropes required to appear normal. You realize that others may look at you in the way one would look at a crazed person if you were simply to act out without explanation. How do you set up the conversation with those around you? How do you let them know of those things that make you, you?