I have written about my thoughts on lying. Are lies, and the act of deceiving itself, necessarily a bad thing for the person you are lying to? Or, should people know the truth at all times? Yes, that would involve them knowing about the time that you gave their dog psychedelic mushrooms and it flipped out and ate the cat, asshole. There are certainly advantages to hiding the truth when a negative impact will be felt by the deceiver. However, there can be advantages to the person being deceived as well – they just may not be founded in morality.
I believe it is true that presenting falsehood is, by and large, immoral. People want to believe, and do by default in most cases, that the person they are interacting with is being forthright and honest. Trust and confidence in the actions of another cannot be built if one (or both) parties are deceiving. But, an unwise feeling of such can be built if one is not discovered to be lying. I do not have the moral quandaries that most have when it comes to deceiving. I lie because, if successful, it brings great advantage to the situation I’m in. Running late for work? There was an accident. Unable to make an engagement? Sorry, I double-booked. Unable to recall the number of that date that totally creeped you out because of her over-attachment to Beanie Babies and her mural to Hanson? Sorry, a boa constrictor ate my child who had swallowed that note you gave me with your number on it. So on and so forth. In the absence of being found out, does this really harm the person being duped? Clearly, the person must believe you to be honest for this to work. [Read more…]