Stigma (3 of 3)

So we’ve seen some of the reasons that there is stigma with respect to being transgendered and with respect to being psychopathic.  Many of the reasons are simply irrational – hiring Bob Barker to emcee your Michael Vick ultra-extravaganza dedicated to dogs with cerebral palsy makes more sense than some of these reasons even if you were wasted and coked-out when you did the booking.  However, just because the stigma is, in general, undeserved does not make the transgenderist or psychopath feel any better about the extra obstacles in their life.  So, how does this affect me, your transgender, psychopathic author?  I am privileged enough in life to where most of this does not mean too much, but nonetheless there are points to take home. [Read more…]

Stigma (2 of 3)

So I wear my mask, hiding my transgender status, to avoid the stigma of being associated with such.  The stigma associated with psychopathy is much different.  Whereas the stigma of being transgender seems to come from a gut feeling of revulsion by society, the stigma of being psychopathic seems to stem from fear.  Although some may fear that the female transgenderist will commit sexual violence in ‘female’ spaces, most are more repulsed by the idea that human bodies are not supposed to evolve that way – it is a reaction of disgust, much like that feeling you had walking in on your roommate performing sex acts involving peanut butter, imported Pabst Blue Ribbon, and a latex sex doll (The PBR was for the doll, apparently – or maybe your roommate’s dog, Waffles). [Read more…]

Stigma (1 of 3)

To be both transgender and psychopathic is to wear two masks.  Adjusting the fit of one automatically makes the other fit more snugly.  The reason for this is that, regardless of intent, both traits require deception.  I would argue that, in most cases, there is only amoral and self-serving intent driving either condition and the deception required of it.  However, deception is deception.  Society is distrustful of those that live in deception and, possibly, rightfully so.  As such there is great stigma being associated with either transgenderism or psychopathy.  This trilogy of posts will explore the stigma of each condition and will conclude with the reasons that such stigma is unnecessary. [Read more…]

Deceiver

I have written about my thoughts on lying.  Are lies, and the act of deceiving itself, necessarily a bad thing for the person you are lying to?  Or, should people know the truth at all times?  Yes, that would involve them knowing about the time that you gave their dog psychedelic mushrooms and it flipped out and ate the cat, asshole.  There are certainly advantages to hiding the truth when a negative impact will be felt by the deceiver.  However, there can be advantages to the person being deceived as well – they just may not be founded in morality.

I believe it is true that presenting falsehood is, by and large, immoral.  People want to believe, and do by default in most cases, that the person they are interacting with is being forthright and honest.  Trust and confidence in the actions of another cannot be built if one (or both) parties are deceiving.    But, an unwise feeling of such can be built if one is not discovered to be lying.  I do not have the moral quandaries that most have when it comes to deceiving.  I lie because, if successful, it brings great advantage to the situation I’m in.  Running late for work? There was an accident.  Unable to make an engagement?  Sorry, I double-booked.  Unable to recall the number of that date that totally creeped you out because of her over-attachment to Beanie Babies and her mural to Hanson? Sorry, a boa constrictor ate my child who had swallowed that note you gave me with your number on it.  So on and so forth.  In the absence of being found out, does this really harm the person being duped?  Clearly, the person must believe you to be honest for this to work. [Read more…]

Disclosure

Author’s note:  I originally, and advertised as such, was going to put up a post regarding new research from Europe regarding empathy being a ‘switch’ of sorts for psychopaths.  Having written and queued it for today, I forgot about it only to find out that a much more specialized (in psychopathy) blog had beaten me to the punch and, frankly, I respect them too much to give appearances of piggy-backing.  So, if you are looking for insight on this new research, check out their blog.  I may resurrect my post for filler in the future.  

How, if at all, does one disclose a core, but repugnant to some, component of their being?  How do I disclose to others that my voice, my mannerisms, my gait, and so forth betray what is between my legs?  Do I disclose at all, or do I keep others in the dark?  As a transgenderist, these are questions I face all the time.  Being both part of such a marginalized stratum of people and being myself a psychopath play roles in answering that question.

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