People laugh at the idea of trusting a psychopath. Why would they divulge any sensitive information to a person that has no qualms in using it for their own advantage? I’ve been to bars where people will just open up and reveal their life stories, good and bad, to me with very little coercion on my part and it amazes me. If they knew what I could do, without moral quandary, with that information, surely that would never yield it. However, even if they did not know, why are some people so trusting when it comes to such sensitive information? The psychopath may consciously yield information as a measure of risk for reward, but the non-psychopath does it as a normal means of human interaction. This confuses me. [Read more…]
Privilege is a tricky subject. It leads to such troubling, yet loaded from a certain perspective, questions such as whether it is possible to not be racist and be white. Privilege is a state of being that is out of the control of the one who exhibits it. Privilege, from a psychopathic worldview, is having an unfair advantage in the game of life without any of your own skill. The psychopath may not be troubled by this unfair advantage if it leads to desired results, but it is still against the spirit of gamesmanship that many psychopaths live by. Males have privilege that females do not. Whites have privilege that blacks do not. Christians have privilege, in many areas, that atheists do not. The cisgender have privilege that the transgender do not. So on and so forth.
So what of the transgenderist? For the transgender male they have come into privilege that they did not posses prior. For the transgender female, they yield privilege. Such are side effects of presenting a different sex and gender inconsistent with what is expected from birth. The vast majority of transgenderists probably do not consider such elevation or deflation of privilege in their calculations when deciding to transition. Mitigating the dysphoria is the top priority. However, could this privilege be gamed and are some right to point out that such privilege shifts are detrimental to marginalized groups? [Read more…]
I remember trying to digest my diagnosis with my best friend at the time, years ago. He was a trusted confidant and I knew that I would be able to talk to him about virtually anything. We had met one evening after a social function and he had been captivated by my charisma and confidence. Over the years we grew closer and soon were traveling the country, visiting various places, and were doing all those ‘best friend’ activities that two are supposed to do when they are close. It did not matter that he was a cisgender male and I myself was transgender. It did not matter that he was close to God and I was the traditional iconoclast. We were close and we trusted each other with our dearest secrets and dreams, hopes and fears. I remember that night when I was talking with him at a local pub, explaining how everything was finally starting to make sense. I was trying to explain the reasons why sometimes we could be at each other’s throats and why I could not feel the joy he felt at times. He could not focus; he had his own life-altering concerns in front of him due to several events that had happened I tried, unsuccessfully to steer the conversation back to my needs, but he was too engrossed in his own worries. Finally, I looked him the eye and told him we were done as friends; I could not stand to listen to his warbling when my matters were of more concern to me. We have not spoken since. [Read more…]
We are self-centered. We are callous. We lack empathy. Yet there is no reason that there cannot be social movements or injustices that the psychopath cares about or that she is involved with directly. Maybe it is as simple as relating to others in our shoes insofar we can gain our own liberation through their liberation. Maybe there is a connection between our struggles and their struggles. Maybe it is as simple as wanting to see the game played according to the rules; even if they are our rules. Regardless, I do not believe that there is a contradiction between the traits of psychopathy and wanting to see certain injustices resolved. Being psychopathic may mean having a dearth of principles but it does not mean that we are completely without principle. [Read more…]
Psychopaths tend not to regret what they do except for those actions that hinder their abilities to be successful. Rather than dwelling on what could have been, we move on to different partners, different jobs, different geographic locations, and so on. Very few actions are considered ‘fatal’ and worthy of regret by the psychopath. In my previous post, I outlined some of the regrets I feel regarding being transgender. All of those regrets were to be viewed through the lens of potential inability to move forward in a shark-like fashion due to the consequences of being transgendered. None of the regrets were due to the physical changes I have incurred as a result of being transgendered.
We psychopaths live in the moment. The ability to gauge what our actions will do for our future selves is limited. Other times, we may realize what it will do but simply not care. With such a momentary focus, an inability for regret is essential. What advantage is there to dwell on the past when we have a present to take advantage of? With a lack of empathy for others, the focus of any past actions must be centered on ourselves. However, just because some activity in the past has hindered our present self’s ability to succeed, I don’t believe that makes it automatically register as worthy of regret. The threshold differs person to person. For instance, I am terrible with money. I have blown the equivalent of salaries for multiple years on items and activities that quickly outlived their usefulness. However, I do not feel regret over that. I will find some way to move when I need to and to pay for items that I truly need. Whether this is through irresponsibility in the use of credit or charming my way to new employment, I will find a way. This is different than the hindrance caused by being transgender as those obstacles are external in nature, however they were caused by an internal action. I think that is the key here: regret can only arise if it handicaps us due to the views of others but is the result of something we did. [Read more…]