The liberal concept that everyone is deserving of, and capable of, love is laughable to me. Love is little more than a chemical reaction to shared interests and other commonalities. People describe a burning desire to the see the other person succeed as well as an emotional state that renders them vulnerable and blinded. Often logic gets thrown to wind as individuals in love succumb to emotional decisions rather than rational ones. In general, the psychopath experiences none of this, and if he does, it is exceedingly rare and usually with “less” disordered individuals. This point has been explored thoroughly in this blog and I will not revisit the topic in depth here. What I wish to focus on in this post is the concept of loveability, the state of having others love a person. Liberal voices decry the proposition that there exist those that are unlovable. While it may be true that there is some probability close to 1 that someone on this earth may be compatible with a person, the logistics of finding such an individual are often negligible. Just as the left tries to sweep the concept of antisocial personalities under the rug, they try to give false hope to many that simply will never see the love of another.
The extremely disabled or those with toxic personalities are those most likely to be unlovable. Who would maintain a relationship with someone that has no arms or legs and is blind, for instance? Maybe a masochist, but I would propose that anyone that gravitates toward such a person is mentally damaged. What interests me more is the narrative that many antisocials can be “fixed” if someone would just show them love. I suspect this ill-conceived narrative is what drives many into abusive relationships where love is not present anyway. To the rational person, they should stay away from the antisocial. They should see the uncaring mind, and in the case of psychopaths, the narcissistic soul. They should see that they hold little value beyond what they provide to the antisocial and that he undoubtedly cannot reciprocate any feelings given to him. In short, they should run like hell. And, wisely, many do.
I suspect that most antisocials do not care if they are loved. They may long for companionship, but the concept of another lowering themselves to an emotional state is often treated laughably. For the antisocials that do care, I suspect that the realization that they are incompatible with the entire human race is a damning one. I am unsure whether I care. I miss companionship, but I will never have the affective empathy required for another person to show true love. I would be upset when they are gone, but only because I would miss what they did for me, not because I would cry for their very soul. There exist people that should be unlovable by the neurotypical and there are those people that are unlovable by the neurotypical. Not everyone can be loved and we need to destroy the narrative that everyone can be, as it is lie that sets people up for false hope.