Compassion should be considered a verb and not a noun. That is, I do not buy that people are inherently compassionate. There will always be exceptions to their alignment, and, often, the misfits of society need not apply for such compassion. However, compassion is a conscious choice. The person showing compassion is making an effort to give mercy where the situation need not demand it. Everyone is capable of compassion, but many choose not to show it. I propose that the healthy individual cull those that refuse to act compassionately. What gain is there to be had in associating with an individual that refuses to help another in need? Eventually they will choose not to help you in your time of trial as well. As I meditate and become more interconnected with those around me, I am making difficult decisions regarding those that I keep in close proximity. My emotional bonds may be non-existent at the moment, but I certainly do not wish to keep those in my life that will not be there for me when I need it. As the proximity to oneself increases, the bar to be cleared by those in such proximity must be made higher.
Nearly everyone is guilty of placing people into circles that they are unworthy of. We want to assume the best from those in our lives, and then are shocked when those that never had the goods fail us miserably. No one is entitled to belong to anyone’s inner circle. For those with closest proximity, there must be a heightened set of expectations lest they get pushed away. People need to cut more people out of their lives than they keep, for most will never amount to anything more than lip-service to a person that deserves much more than that. Those that are unwilling to provide manna during a time of lost wandering are unworthy of the healthy person’s time or energy. May such parasites find other prey.
I suspect most will not heed these words. We are conditioned as a species to find the best in people, to the point that we make ourselves vulnerable to the whims of those composed of only the worst of mankind. Compassion, in particular, is a learned skill that separates the wheat from the chaff. If we surround ourselves that refuse to learn that skill, then we set ourselves up for utter devastation when our own time of need comes. No one is entitled to anything, especially an interpersonal relationship whose ground is shifting. Cut those from your life that will never be there. It is better to be alone than to be abandoned during your greatest time of need.