Depths of Ruin – Psychopathic Impulsivity

Come crawling to me when your impulsivity surrenders you to the deepest depths of financial, legal, or interpersonal hell.  I’m sick and tired of individuals assessing themselves in the absence of clear and conclusive evidence of psychopathy.  It takes far more than a few poor and rash decisions here and there to reach the heights of psychopathic impulsivity.  Let’s talk about a complete disregard for your life.  Let’s talk about a complete disregard for the lives of others.  If your actions aren’t off the cuff to the point where lives are potentially ruined, you probably do not meet the criteria for psychopathic impulsivity.  I’ve discussed numerous times my patterns of risky and impulsive alcohol and substance abuse as well as my excessive and consistent spending that has left me more than underwater.  Sexual promiscuity also ties in as people like me tend to find any and all hookups with little concern to anything but the moment.  Simply put, your definition of impulsivity and mine probably differ to a great degree.

Changing jobs at a whim; changing partners at a whim; choosing activities in the spur of the moment that literally put one’s life in danger – all of these and more mark the impulsive psychopath.  There is no stability in the life of a psychopath.  People are added and removed without the slightest consideration to their value in the past, present, nor future.  No consideration is made to doing anything correctly – only quickly and with great “fun.”  Psychopaths look for the shiniest prize in the moment, uncaring as to whether the shine hides complete ruin.  Stories of psychopaths killing people before they can realize the action they are committing comes to mind.  Psychopaths leaving a trail of destruction at a job only to jump to a new one as soon as it presents itself … ad infinitum … are common place.  Combine the psychopath’s impulsivity with their antisocial proclivities, and there will be a great mess indeed.

Lives hang in the balance of the psychopath’s whims.  Ill-advised and poorly thought out, psychopaths tend to leave a trail of destruction for others and themselves as they sway to their own dance.  I suppose if I could do my life over, I would try to show more mindfulness and avoid those risky and reckless actions that have defined my life.  Or, maybe I would simply find other avenues for my recklessness.  Either way, the psychopath tends not to have this mindfulness; I certainly did not until several years of therapy were completed, and even then, I am unsure to what extent I can control myself in the future.  In many ways, it is this impulsivity that it is responsible for most of the ruinous behavior of the psychopath.  So please, tell me more about your own impulsivity.  I guarantee it does not match that of the psychopath and I guarantee you are deluding yourself.

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  1. MMS says

    Despite having a penchant for acting instinctively without forethought, apart from a bit cash-strapped now and then due to excessive generosity or overspending and embarrassing or offending through outspokenness, there have been only a few instances of major unplanned changes. Consequences have not been significantly detrimental in the long term and there are definite limits to what I feel “impulsively” driven towards, seldom being contrary to my core nature. Insight and time have taught me to recognise and manage these inclinations – most of the time.

    Your post has been a somewhat shocking revelation of the level of psychopathic impulsivity.

    I read somewhere that once a psychopath sets their sights on something they want, their focus cannot be diverted until it has been gained. It seems likely that this intense focus impacts on the force of the impulses.

  2. beneficii says

    I keep hearing things like “trail of destruction” mentioned in relation to psychopathy. What do you mean by this? Can you give examples?

    • FNP says

      Trail of destruction is anything from a literal slew of corpses left in your wake to the simplest meaning of leaving other people’s lives in complete disarray as you blithely move on to the next target/victim.

  3. Lilly Bloom says

    You wrote: ” I suppose if I could do my life over, I would try to show more mindfulness and avoid those risky and reckless actions that have defined my life.”

    Comment: I and a couple of friends of mine who have been studying psychopathy for 30-years and a criminologist friend who interviewed almost 300 criminals over a 25-year period and tagged 62 as psychopaths do not believe a genuine psychopath could even think like your statement reads, and that would be after any amount of therapy, whether counseling or shock therapy.

    No treatment or situation could make them think that way. They may try to con someone into believing that, especially if that someone is a mark or has power over them, e.g., a penologist.

    We’ve never known one to think like that, and that would make the possibility very, very unlikely.

    If anything, that is, if one could admit to any past wrong or fault (and most cannot), they would blame everyone around them for their actions. They never take responsibility for their actions.

    Besides, to a parasitic psychopath, what they do is not wrong. They can’t even understand why they should not cheat their neighbors, their classmates, their work associates, or their families.

    Their deeply ingrained entitlement mentality causes them to believe they deserve anything they want—no matter where it comes from.

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