I ended therapy for the time being. The sessions as of late were incredibly one-sided, with my drive to change problematic behaviors nearing zero. Therapy is only effective if the person receiving therapy is open to change. Right now, I’m struggling to make it from day to day, dealing with the unforgiving assault of organic and environmental depression. I could change things. I could find activities and mantras that would help ease the pain that I live with currently. I could reduce my chain smoking and disdain for my health. I could change many things. However, I do not wish to at this time. I suppose on some level, chaos and a slow death is working for me, and until I come around, there is simply no point in wasting my therapist’s time or that of my own. All of this parallels the decision psychopaths have to make regarding their behaviors. If there is no desire to rein in one’s destructive behaviors, then no amount of coaching or analysis showing the benefits of such will resonate. A psychopath has free will, of course, but she must choose wisely when it comes to using that free will. She can choose to be a force of destruction, leaving lives – including her own – in the wake, or she can channel her energy into adapting to the mold that society requires. Ultimately, this decision lies solely with her.
A disorder is made up of individual traits that come together to wreck oneself or others. A destructive trait, while problematic on its own, is not sufficient for the declaration of a disorder. There is a certain degree of self-destruction required for a set of behaviors to register as truly disordered. You have weak and shallow emotions? Great. Maybe this is problematic as you feel that you are missing out on the richness of life. However, it takes much more than that to register as psychopathic, for example. If your life is going well, as are the lives of those around you, then you are probably not psychopathic. I know that some authors, such as James Fallon, push the validity of psychopathy in those that would not register as such on the PCL-R, for instance. To me, this is insanity. Why should those that live non-disordered lives lay claim to the struggles that those with the disorder (and/or those around them) have? Ideally, one would not wish to be psychopathic. Why would you want to have a malady of the soul, after all?
You can always choose your own adventure, so long as the outcome is line with the will of the masses. I’ve written before of how morality is often forced upon us in the media that we consume. This morality is often arbitrary and is relative to the will of the larger population. Psychopaths may have bloodlust – of this, I am firmly convinced – but many do not act on the violent imagery that goes through our heads. What harm is there in anyone, psychopath or neurotypical, in exploring such bloodlust in the realm of fiction? Surely this is not a desire that is limited to the psychopath, for violent video games and movies often dominate. I am often ruffled by the forced decision in media to embrace that which is “good” or “pure.” I want to, more often than not, embrace those violent images that I cannot act on but desperately want to see play out. I want to be able to enjoy my media as I enjoy my dark imaginings. What does this matter? If I am not hurting anyone, which I am not and will not, then why can’t I play out the lurid scenes that reside in my head?
This comment is particularly interesting. The comparison between depression and psychopathic impulsivity seems particularly apt when we consider the numbness that the psychopath lives through in life. This “numbness” is often referred to as psychopathic boredom or the psychopath’s need for stimulation. Nothing satisfies, so the psychopath turns to more and more extreme measures in order to feel anything satisfying regarding life. Some snuff themselves in this fashion, and many others end up in jail seeking a short-lived high. When neurotypicals speak of ‘boredom,’ they mean that they’d rather be doing something other than that which they are engaged in at that moment. When a psychopath speaks of ‘boredom,’ he means that he is numb and seeking anything that will release him from that state, knowing full and well that the odds are against him in finding such a panacea.
Come crawling to me when your impulsivity surrenders you to the deepest depths of financial, legal, or interpersonal hell. I’m sick and tired of individuals assessing themselves in the absence of clear and conclusive evidence of psychopathy. It takes far more than a few poor and rash decisions here and there to reach the heights of psychopathic impulsivity. Let’s talk about a complete disregard for your life. Let’s talk about a complete disregard for the lives of others. If your actions aren’t off the cuff to the point where lives are potentially ruined, you probably do not meet the criteria for psychopathic impulsivity. I’ve discussed numerous times my patterns of risky and impulsive alcohol and substance abuse as well as my excessive and consistent spending that has left me more than underwater. Sexual promiscuity also ties in as people like me tend to find any and all hookups with little concern to anything but the moment. Simply put, your definition of impulsivity and mine probably differ to a great degree.