I get it. It is painful to get close to someone only to realize that they do not differentiate between you and a pile of dirt. It shakes the soul to know that someone that you care about not only does not reciprocate your feelings but led you on under false pretense. It hurts to know that another person could take all of your energy and give none back. However, I am still convinced that these problems are not endemic to any one demographic, even if they may be more common in those without affective empathy. At some point you have to take responsibility for flying too close to the sun.
The neurotypical is not completely unlike the psychopath when it comes to taking responsibility. Sure, maybe they are willing to take responsibility for a fuck-up at work or a missed appointment, but they never take responsibility for their own self-inflicted wounds. I’m thinking primarily of interpersonal relationships gone south. A relationship should be ended whenever a party is harmed; you don’t get to scream ‘abuse’ when you could have chosen not to stick your hand on the hot stove repeatedly. If you missed every single warning sign that another may inflict damage upon you, then get actively harmed, and still choose not to leave … well you have no one to blame but yourself.
Please stop with the romantic gaze toward the antisocial spectrum. As much as those on the antisocial spectrum do not care to live life any other way, we must keep in mind that the ‘disorder’ – called such for a reason – causes some real inconveniences at times for those with the disorder as well as those around them. Jail-time, bodily injury, financial ruin, and many other negative effects of the disorder can be found without looking very intently. Why on earth the non-antisocial would admire these traits (looking at you true-crime tumblr) or actively seek to incorporate these facets is beyond me. We need to drop the fascination and want of the brains of others and embrace the inner workings that make us unique. Neurocide.
I know that I recently said that I was done with administering forums, and that they offered little objective value once they became full-fledged echo chambers. Well, I changed my mind again. I’ve listed the reasons why “recovery” sites with their discussion boards tend to be shitholes, but I think that the jury may still be out on whether analogous sites for those being accused of inflicted damage are without merit. Thinking specifically of Lovefraud and PsychopathFree, whose websites I will not link to in this post, I can imagine the frustration of those that are constantly being thrown under the bus, rightly or wrongly. There needs to be an outlet for the forsaken, though the effectiveness of that outlet can only be determined by those that participate. With this in mind, I have decided to spin up a new site, separate from this blog, dedicated to this need. In the spirit of throwing sand in the eyes of my enemies, I have named it Psychopath Tree.
What are the differences between sociopaths and psychopaths? Nothing and everything, as it all depends on what is meant by each term. To continue we need to create an unambiguous framework for each term. According to Kent Kiehl, PhD, there are no differences between sociopaths and psychopaths because they both measure the same thing – the etymology is merely different. For others, the term ‘sociopathy’ is synonymous with Antisocial Personality Disorder. What follows assumes that we are talking about the differences between ASPD and psychopathy.