I live hard and fast.  A junkie at heart, I’m always seeking the newest shiny object or exhilarating thrill.  However, this hasn’t gotten me anywhere.   I’m tens of thousands of dollars in debt and relatively unhealthy from years of self-abuse due to being such a junkie.  Burning through interpersonal relationships is the norm.  Running away when the going gets tough is also as typical for me.  It just isn’t working.  This implies that I have to slow down.  I need tranquilized.  I need to be more deliberate with my actions and learn to delay gratification – especially when it was never guaranteed to begin with.

I need to “forget” what it is like to be me.  I can honor my lack of empathy with the kiss of logic, but I cannot honor the speed at which I have lived life these first thirty years of my life.  The way that I’ve burned bridges and destroyed myself must be forgotten and replaced by a new dogma: faith in calculated motion.  It’s painful to move at the speed of mortals.  Yet, I must slow down.  These past few weeks, I’ve been writhing in pain as I slow things down.  A new relationship that moves slowly, a desire to run away that must remain in check, and a focus on responsibility are all new to me.  In the past, I would be progressing matters faster than a junkie’s heart beats.  “Slow down,” I tell myself.  It is all that I can do.

The idea of restraint does not require one to keep in check their internalized antisocial nature.  That is, self-destruction is not required for restraint in a society that demands prosocial behavior.  However, the heartbeat must slow.  Tachycardia is unhealthy and so is the self-destructive ways of the psychopath.  I feel like I’m slamming on the brakes from 100 miles per hour, but at least I anticipate avoiding running into the brick wall that lies in front of me.

Prosocial Relationships and the Psychopath ... A Chess Game Without the Use of Rooks


  1. Derash says

    I’m interested to see how such a revelation unfolds for you (in a general sense, not knowing too much of your life anyhow). It’s a very difficult endeavor, but I think you have one of the best shots among the many. Again, thank you for such devotion to the idea of restraint, and I hope you are able to embrace and apply your own words and slow the heartbeat.

    • Derash says

      Also, perhaps you could give a follow-up article in the future comparing the two frames of fast and slow living as you’ve experienced them and draw some conclusions for advice/preference/recommendations/etc. This is a great chance for further discussion because restraint is one of those concepts, if you know what I mean.

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